Kim and Kanye are Having Another Baby And They Dont Owe Anyone a Reason Why

Kim and Kanye are Having Another Baby And They Dont Owe Anyone a Reason Why This morning, it was reported that Kim Kardashian and husband Kanye West are expecting their fourth child, who will be delivered via surrogate.Like anyone who makes the decision to get pregnant, Kim and Kanye have every reason to celebrate their soon-to-be baby. Add the fact that Kim underwent two high-risk pregnancies and routinely discusses her fertility struggles, and you have to imagine shes bouncing off the walls happy about the new Kardashian-West family member. After all, she completely gushes over their youngest daughter, Chicago, who was delivered via surrogate in Jan. 2018.But people online are already ruining this happy moment. And their criticism has bigger implications than hurting Kim or Kanyes feelings (which is totenstill obviously super not chill Celebrities dont owe you anything) its openly shaming hosts of people who have kids at inappropriate times in inappropriate ways. Lets break this do wn.Like many women who deliver children via surrogate, Kim is being criticized for having children in an unnatural way.Twitter is throwing around the condescending term designer baby almost as much as theyre throwing around criticism of Kim being excessive by having a child intentionally.One tweet even compared her having a child to adopting a dog, saying adopt, dont shop.Its pretty obvious why this kind of language is harmful to all women who have kids via surrogate (or women who struggle with fertility and find other ways to have children). To suggest that one kind of pregnancy is natural and positive while another is excessive and unnatural is ableist (it literally judges the worth of a womans experience by the ability of her body to do something). Not only that, but isnt feminism about supporting other women in the choices that make them happy? If thats motherhood for Kim or for any women out there, shouldnt we respect that? This kind of talk doesnt empathize at all with women w ho want kids because it makes them happy, or because its what they wanted with their life.Additionally, this kind of discourse definitely doesnt empathize at all with women who were raised in a society that often (even still) measures their womanhood by their ability to have children. The ability to have children can be incredibly important to women who have transitioned, women who have fertility struggles and feel less womanly as a result, and women who dont have any obligation to tell you why they want to get pregnant, thanksSimilarly, Kanye is being criticized for having a child because hes... mentally ill?A host of tweets suggest that Kanyes instability or erratic behavior make him an unfit father. One tweet even theorizes that getting Kanye mental health treatment should be the utmost priority, as though the author of that tweet is Kanye Wests personal chief of staff and/or mother and/or therapist and/or has any working knowledge of his personal life and personal health. This d iscourse isnt just wildly disrespectful to Kanye (who even I can admit is completely unbearable on Twitter) its ableist and its based on two completely incorrect assumptions. First, that people with mental illness are either healthy or unhealthy. And secondly, that only healthy people with mental illness can be good parents or are of interpersonal value.Plenty of parents have mental illness. Plenty of good parents have mental illness. Having flaute or anxiety or bipolar disorder or schizophrenia does not automatically toss someone into the bad parent pool. And to suggest so is incredibly harmful to people who people who are already likely to experience guilt for not being the typical parent just like shaming women who have children via surrogate shames people who are already likely to experience bad feelings for not having the typical pregnancy experience.Is a large part of the critique of Kim and Kanye about economics or climate change? Absolutely.I believe some people question the ir decision to spend money on bringing more children into the world amidst terrible weltweit poverty, overpopulation, etc. However, I also believe that people are much more offended by their choice to have another child than they are offended by their decision to fly private jets around the world and drop hundreds of thousands of dollars on Birkin bags because sexism and ableism are very real. And because, obviously, having a kid is way less sexy than dressing up in Versace, then throwing it away. Or a Rolls Royce that gets about 6 miles to the gallon.